What is sex?
Indulge in it as much as they can
idolize it, and those who can indulge
denounce it, and wish it would leave them alone
almost no one knows what it really is.
We can not understand sex
as long as we think of it only as poles and holes
even if we put the poles and holes
in a dreamy romance setting
or surrounded them
with marriage vows and baby cribs
or forbid and dislocated them
by chastity belts and vows of renunciation
If not poles and holes, what is it?
Sex is nothing less than the fundamental, primary function of consciousness.
Consciousness = the perceiver
it’s core desire = to perceive
How do we perceive things?
By contact with them. [sense + object = perception]
contact between perceiver and perceived = the essence of sex.
Sex is what consciousness does to fulfill its natural desire.
Conscious is the basis of reality,
So sex is at the root of reality.
everyone and everything is involved in it
and that’s why
sex creates things
That’s why the 8th house is about sex, and also about ayuṣa, vitality and life-force.
Description of universal creation:
mama yonir mahadbrahma,
tasmin garbhaṁ dadhāmy aham
Sex and Love
Love is what the perceiver and perceived
feel for each other
Unity is the means for the perceiver and perceived
to realize their love
Sex is that unity.
So sex and love are intrinsically related
Love can be pure or impure,
so sex can be both exquisite and disgusting.
What is the difference between male and female sexual energy?
masculinity / femininity != any specific man or woman
Everyone has their own unique balance of male and female characteristics in their intellectual, emotional and physical nature.
Some men are very masculine, some are not, some can even be quite feminine. Some women…
Variety can be seen in the masculine and feminine signs themselves
Water signs very feminine
Fire signs very masculine
Air signs are male, which shows the masculine element of love for independence and freedom, but have significant femininity too, shown by their proficiency with words and art, and their ability to make people happy.
Earth signs are female, which shows the feminine element of fertility, but have significant masculinity too, shown by their stability and practicality.
Even among the more gender-typical water and fire signs we see great variation.
Aries shows the nature of full-fledged masculinity.
Leo shows more mature, experienced masculinity.
Sagittarius shows fully mature and wise masculinity.
Cancer shows the nature of full-fledged femininity.
Scorpio shows femininty’s emotional strength.
Pisces shows fully mature, contemplative femininity.
Masculinity and Femininity
The difference between mas. and fem. is rooted in the way consciousness functions.
Consciousness can function in two ways.
It can experience things as either the perceiver or the perceived.
Consciousness as the perceiver is the ultimate root of masculinity.
Consciousness as the perceived is the ultimate root of femininity.
Masculinity is more straightforward and easy to understand.
Femininity is more mysterious.
The riddle with femininity is that it functions as an object, but is also a conscious subject.
As a conscious subject she too is a perceiver and enjoyer, but her perception is from the perspective of the perceived, and her enjoyment is from the perspective of the enjoyed.
The core feminine desire is to be fully and truly perceived
Pursues this by attracting the perceiver
It’s main asset is beauty.
Its nature is shy and passive or covert,
But again this is mysterious: it attracts the perceiver to initiate union, so its display of beauty is the ultimate initiator.
covertly, it is the ultimate initiator
overtly, it appears shy and without initiative
The core masculine desire is to fully and truly perceive something great:
Pursues this by conquering and possessing desirable objects
It’s main asset is power, strength, bravery, and so on.
Sometimes men try to overpower women, and enjoy them by force – but this is not only disgusting, it is futile.
Consciousness is ajita, it cannot be conquered, no one can be forced to open themselves to true and full perception, it must be done by freewill.
So, to conquer a female, a male must convince her to open herself to him. He must convince her that he can truly comprehend her, and she will enjoy and prosper if she allows herself to be perceived by him.
He does this by showing power and strength, adventurousness, eagerness, confidence, assertiveness, and so on.
These natures are reflected in the physical sex organs.
The male organ is penetrating and catalytic.
The female organ is receptive and nurturing
The male organs are overt and obvious. They are concentrated mostly in one obvious place, and thus relatively easy to satisfy.
The primary female sexual organs are covert and hidden. They are diversified more evenly over the entire body, thus it is relatively complex to locate and satisfy.
Masculine & Feminine Planets
The Moon and Venus represent femininity.
The Sun and Mars represent masculinity.
The Moon and Venus display all the key traits of femininity:
They are the most beautiful objects in the sky
The moon represents shyness, covertness, and the internal self.
Venus represents love, cooperation and beauty – the assets that attract and form stable union with mates.
The Sun and Mars display all the key traits of masculinity:
They both represent strength
Sun shows masculinity’s ability to support others.
All the planets depend on the Sun’s stability, gravity, and light.
And it shows masculinity’s decisive, clear-cut nature: It’s light makes things clear, and thus makes decisions easy.
Mars shows the freedom, bravery and inceptivity of masculinity.
What role can sex, or lack of sex, play in the spiritual quest?
Sex – joining perceiver and perceived is what consciousness does,
So all conscious entities are inherently sexual and sexy
the supreme conscious entity is supremely sexual and sexy.
Considering this, the personality of Bhagavān Śrī Krishna starts to make beautiful, delightful sense.
His avatāra explicitly demonstrates the beauty and joy, of supreme, divine sexuality, but because people have very little understanding of the inherently spiritual nature of sex, they seldom understand Krishna.
Astrology nicely portrays the inseparability of sex and spirituality
The houses of spirituality (the mokṣa-sthāna) are 4, 8, and 12.
Two of the three are the houses of sexual organs:
4: the female breasts
8: the genitals
Two of them are houses of the sexuality.
8: sexuality & libido
The houses of enlightenment are the houses of sex because sex is the natural function of consciousness, and orgasm is a form of mokṣa (enlightenment, liberation) albeit a temporary form, dependent on external stimulation.
The 2 Most Unfortunate Misconceptions
About Sex and Sensuality are:
- That sensual objects contain pleasure
- That sexual union happens between two individuals
We think pleasure comes from sense objects
pleasure comes only from consciousness.
even the best sense objects produce no pleasure
A delicious cookie will not delight a brick,
because the brick has no consciousness
and no mouth for the consciousness to experience through.
Then what is the need for the objects?
The mind, the master sense,
is usually lost in a delirium
of anxiety for the future
and regret for the past
So it drowns in
and tamasic sadness
Sense object provide fascinating, interesting stimuli
temporarily wrenching the mind
out of its stressful and depressing delirium
and riveting it in the present moment
This gives relief
from the stress of rajas
and sadness of tamas
And temporarily puts us in touch
with the reality of sattva
Being in the sattvic present moment
gives us a chance
to get a peak through the clouds
at the brilliance of who and what we really are: consciousness
A tiny fragment of a s sliver
of the pleasure and bliss inherent in Bhagavān
who is paramātma
the root of all consciousness
peaks through the parted clouds of rajas and tamas
and dawns on our present moment
and we feel joy
but in ignorance think that the joy comes from the object,
not from Bhagavān.
The more intense the sensual fascination,
the more prolonged and deep the mind’s retraction from the illusion of past and future,
the more strongly it gets riveted into the now,
the more powerfully it gains access to the blissful nature of the supreme consciousness, Bhagavān.
Nothing is more sensually riveting
than a fully-formed, strong and ideal orgasm
So external experience can liberate the mind from past and future as completely as it
So no sensual experience gives greater access to the inherent pleasure of consciousness itself.
We think sex-pleasure is a matter of poles and holes,
it is not.
it is brahmānanda – the pleasure of consciousness
Genital stimulation is just a crutch
to rivet our mind into intense meditation
on the present moment,
so that it can experience directly what it really is –
a fountain of bliss.
The sensual approach to accessing joy is easy
because we are used to it
intrigued by it
and have designed ourselves to explore it
But it is not ideal,
because it is indirect
and dependent on external circumstances and objects
which are always beyond our control
Realizing this inspires us to search for direct and independent means of accessing Paramātmā Bhagavān.
The 2nd Most Unfortunate Misconception is that
even when we realize that sex is nothing but unity
we still imagine that the entity we are uniting with
is our sexual partner
The truth is that sex does not unite us directly with our sexual partner.
We cannot be directly united with any other individual,
because the ātma is not directly linked to any other ātma
We are directly linked only to the super-self, Paramātma.
In the depth and height of orgasm,
we are unaware of our partner’s identity
we are unaware of our partner’s existence
we even become unaware of our own
conventional sense of identity and existence
Sex doesn’t actually unite us with a partner,
it unites us with our self
and deeper still, with the root of ourself,
who is the root
connecting all individuals
Realizing this not only gives sex its full significance
it inspires us to finding a more direct way
to commune with Bhagavān,
one which is not dependent
on external situations and stimulations
that are always temporary and out of our control
Celibacy and Yoga
As you discover more direct and self-sufficient access
to the source of orgasmic bliss, Bhagavān,
you will lose interest in the indirect and dependent
method of sensual and sexual stimulation.
So, lack of sexual interest
is a hallmark of
genuine spiritual progress
But many, many spiritual aspirants
try to imitate or force this lack of interest
an approach that very quickly becomes
morose, difficult, and doomed to disaster
Krishna explains in Gītā:
viṣayā vinivartante nirāhārasya dehinaḥ
rasa-varjaṁ raso ’py asya paraṁ dṛṣṭvā nivartate
Without realizing that sex originates from
and is fully satisfied in
the root consciousness, Bhagavān,
there is no hope
or even reason to hope
that we might give up our current obsession
with the external approach